Are these things SIGNS that I am NOT SAVED? (Drugs, Alcohol, Sex, Divorce)

Our listener asks, “I believe I have been saved, although I can’t remember the day. However I have always attended churches that preach you have to be really sorry for sin, and turn from all your sin to ‘really’ be saved. I’m so confused now, because I recently got a divorce, and my children don’t want to have anything to do with me. I gave into the temptation to get into another relationship that I thought would last, but it didn’t. Now, all I feel is pain, disappointment, depression and anxiety. I can’t take much more of this, and would like to talk to someone about it. I found this ministry when Dr. Arnold was the head pastor, and what he said really made sense. I do struggle with the way I have been living because it has not been good with sex, drugs, and alcohol to try and dull the pain. Most pastors tell me that’s a sign that I am not really saved. Please, I hope you can help me.”